Next week, it will be one year since our girl left us. When winter started to set in, I grabbed this memorial stone (a gift from dear Linda) and brought it inside. I didn’t want her out there in the elements.
I know you understand.
I am in the middle – in fact, both of us are – of trying to figure out how to balance my anger and outrage about what has happened since January 20th with the fact that I have to take care of myself. Someone said I was very angry and my internal response was, ‘You’re damned right, I’m angry. The election was stolen. We have a man of dubious mental fitness at the helm of our country. People are being hurt, families are being uprooted.” I won’t deny it and I won’t apologize for it.
Watch the signs, my friends, we are being maneuvered into a position where war seems like an inevitability.
And, though I consider myself a tolerant person (but human, like all of us) there is no room for tolerance when we’re talking about racism, bigotry, misogyny, Islamophobia or xenophobia. That is non-negotiable.
Complacency is not an option. Acceptance is not an option. My favorite sign from Don’s post about the March in Washington was “If you’re not outraged, you’re not paying attention.”
Nevertheless, I need to take care of myself. And you need to take care of yourselves. And how do we do that? It took me ages to fall asleep last night because this was swirling about in my brain. I don’t want to lose my edge, to lose my desire to fight. I could never forgive myself if I sat back, gave up, and did nothing. But I also have a life to live, work on the horizon, things to do and, at the age of 64, I want and crave peaceful pockets in my days.
This is a question – a discussion – I would love to have with all of you. How do we maintain balance? I can’t let everything he says drive me insane. I have to accept the fact that he is insane and that’s not going to change. I need to see the bigger picture and as Don reminded me this morning, it’s a marathon, not a sprint.
How do we find balance? How do you find balance? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. I think we can help each other.
Today’s schedule? My camera. A Gentleman in Moscow. Maybe a walk. Some hot chocolate. A hug from my husband – make that several. Stay away from Twitter.
I did find a pocket of camera time yesterday. Last week, I saw a bluebird at the birdbath and I couldn’t get to my camera and lens quickly enough to take a picture. Yesterday, while on the phone with Don, I saw another bluebird and I told Don, “I have to hang up. Now.”
But gosh darn it, they move so quickly, and I have to station myself nearby the windows because if I go outside, I’ll scare them away, so my options are more limited.
The presence of bluebirds around here in the winter makes me smile and it also makes me wonder: Where are they in the spring and summer? Do they come here from more northern climes? Is this their winter home? There are a lot of them around here this winter and they’ve been hanging around for quite a while.
Not all that successful, but I did manage a few shots with the telephoto lens.
Late afternoon, gray sky, but there he is.
This one is hidden in the wild roses, aka the dreaded brambles. They provide good cover.
This little sweetie was way off on the other side of the corral at the edge of the woods.
I’ll keep trying.
It’s amazing, really, how many birds are active at any given moment in the dead of winter. When I stop and concentrate entirely on watching for movement of some kind, I realize that there are dozens and dozens of birds flying around. All the time. It’s truly a wonder.
It’s sunny today. More bird watching/photo taking is on the docket.
Because it makes me happy and it’s a form of self-care.
I have a new book review on Just Let Me Finish This Page today. Click here to read it.
Happy Thursday.
Creativity and minis keep me sane from my personal woes, so I just do more of that when outside woes move into the picture. :] And, of course, surrounding yourself with good people who bring warmth and love into your life. And, pets. We can’t forget to count on the things we do have in life and not just dwell on the bad.
I miss my pets. I know they would provide a comfort I just don’t have right now. Thank you, Brae.
The sadness is hitting me daily now as I approach the one year anniversary of losing my sweet Charlie(2/6). I know Scout left you a few days later. My grief and yours has been so hard, but I am thankful I had you and Don to share with me. I will always miss Charlie and there will never be another cat like him.
I have my up days and my down days. Every day seems to bring some sort of horrible news from Washington. We are not in a safe place at all. I saw the comment about you being angry and I said well Hell Yes! I am also angry. My world has be turned upside down and so has everyone else’s and it’s very very sad if they don’t realize it. I am like you and trying not to let this ruin my health. I’m taking more ‘breaks’ from social media, watching the news less and hiding my head in books and movies as needed. It is all still there when I look up though. I think we have to support each other and make ourselves find the Joy!
I started a new book last night, “This Is How It Always Is” so far it is rocking my world. It’s about a transgender child. I’ve cried, hurt and gotten angry and I’m only 118 pages into the book. It’s so well written!
The sun is shining so I think I’ll take some photos today and look for that Joy in life! Hugs!
Charlie died two days before Scout, I believe? I’m so glad we had you, as well.
Yes, I know. Those who think we should just ‘accept things’ are hard to understand – at least for me. No judgement, it’s just not who I am. And I can’t help thinking that’s how Hitler gained more and more power. Too many people ‘accepted.’
Anyway, we have to find a way to stay engaged and fight the fight but also to be good to ourselves. “Find the Joy.” – Perfect.
You’re the second person who has mentioned that book to me this week. It must be a sign! xoxo
No twenty-four seven news programming. Limit opening those political posts on Facebook. And of course, when it warms up you will be able to garden. If you’re like me you might just “plow” your way to China. My husband knows I’m frustrated or upset by the number of holes I dig in the back garden.
Yes. I agree. We stopped that the day after the election. No cable news. I wish I could go out there and dig and clean up the garden but right now, no dice!
Thank you, Cindy.
Well Claudia, I have stopped looking at most social media because it’s usually spouting from people I don’t even know, and usually way over the top and not correct, so…..and my husband spends enough time looking for us both. I can tell what he is reading on his ipad by the look and set of his face. I let him share if he wants and then we delve into the facts. They really are out there for people who just look a little deeper or watch a trusted source (and no, this is not Fox “News”). We have been extremely lifted by the support in our city for all these important issues. I drove by the couthouse yesterday and there were around 40 women, all well past our age walking the block with their signs. Inspiring! And I received Louise Penny’s newsletter and the poem that starts the page is wonderful and scary at the same time. She is just lovely.
Also, I feed my winter birds. Unfortunately, there is a sharpshinned hawk sitting on the roof this morning with feathers around him. Sigh. I know every creature must survive, but I do wish he would go to someone else’s yard to do so. There were 8 robins calmly taking turns in the heated birdbath yesterday while I read and had coffee. Very calming. My husband’s father lives out farther and there are bluebirds all over his place. I asked him last week how many he thinks there are and he said “what bluebirds? What do they look like?” Some people simply never look up.
I also attend a weekly yoga class and a new one was added yesterday with a young lady who was a breath of fresh air. I just loved this new class and look forward to next week! An hour of peace.
I too get up every day now wondering what stupidity happened overnight and angry this man is affecting so many lives negatively. I really don’t want to become ignorant or numb about what is happening, so I just have to pick the amount of time dedicated to it and learn some very deep breathing to get me through what I can’t control. Thank you to all those that are standing up and making a difference!
And thank you for sharing and reminding us all that we are not alone in our frustations and giving us ideas to cope and asking others to share as well.
A tad long. Sorry. Hugs! Verna
Never too long, Verna. Thank you. Very good advice!
Limiting the amount of time seems key to me. And finding something to do that takes my mind off things.
Yesterday I left a book club of former university colleagues for the reason of not feeling the love! Also it had rather quickly turned into a no book club either! When “that man” won the election, I freaked out. The other ladies had also voted for Hillary, but they were telling me “give him a chance” “think positively” etc. made me so angry. Just leaving that group made me feel better!!! There are other stories, but just making the decision to leave and then doing it helped. Wearing pink to church for the last two weeks has helped!!! I opened my eyes and raised my head when the pastor prayed for “that man”, and I had no regrets although he needs prayer! This is conservative OK. Like you, I am 64. We’ve seen lots of changes in society. But this situation, has created anger in me that I never realized was there. To top it off, our governor was on his transition team! Sorry, this was suppose to be a “hang in there” post, but sometimes mad is just mad, and grabbing onto the little things does help!
He’s had plenty of chances. He’s failed every one of them.
You can vent any time, Becky. When we mention one thing, another comes to mind and then suddenly, we’re incensed! I understand.
It’s hard to find a balance these days – for me, setting aside time to step back from the constant 24/7 news and social media helps. I still stay informed – but on my timetable and not one created by the news media’s cycle. Also, I’ve returned to knitting, creating tiny baby hats for our local charities – when ever I pick up yarn/knitting needles and begin to knit, my blood pressure goes down and my shoulders relax. Perhaps knitting (or any handwork) is sort of like yoga? We slow down and center ourselves again – all I know is that it works for me.
I so love that you are posting pictures of life in and around your cottage – the light-filled rooms in your cottage always delight me; and, seeing pictures of the bluebirds this morning brought a smile to my face. It is amazing that even in the middle of winter, there are little signs of the spring to come . Thank you for sharing yourself and your world with us!
I’d love to knit or crochet, but I can’t seem to get excited about picking up a hook or needle. I wish I could. I think handwork can be very meditative, Regina.
Thank you!
Do it, anyway. You don’t need to get excited about knitting for it to be therapeutic. 200 plus scarves later, I know whereof I speak. Most of them were knit in very simple patterns with some nice yarns while waiting for visiting hours to start.
Every day my husband and I say that the world is headed to war. It’s hard to create a balance with all this hanging over our heads. I see our granddaughter trying to make a choice about her future, what she wants to major in in college, where she wants to go to college. I pray every day she’s going to have that kind of future in a year and a half. I am so worried and scared about what is going to happen.
He’s deliberately trying to start a fight – with Mexico, with Australia, with China and with Iran. He’s definitely trying to get something going.
I pray for all of us, including your granddaughter and every young person who deserves to move on in life without this presidency hanging over their heads. Thank you.
If he is trying to start a fight, and you may be right, it may well be that the agenda is for protesting to turn into rioting so that martial law may be declared.
Heads up.
I am concerned with how hateful those who proclaim liberality are becoming.
This response may well be what is intended and desired.
Dear Claudia,It never Ceases to Amaze Me, how some folks will look right,Smac-Dab in the Mirror and See Someone else’s face !
-Judy A
Hi Claudia, knitting and yoga help me. Not watching the news and staying off social media (never was on it much to begin with). I’m informed, but as someone above commented, on my terms. Alternate nostril breathing (a yoga practice) is calming. A glass of wine or a cup of tea. Getting out and walking (though I confess I haven’t done that at all lately due to the weather). I’m also taking up Archery and that is fun!!
Archery! How neat, Vera!
All good suggestions and I thank you for them.
Wish I had a “like” response option for this, Vera. :)
I love bluebirds. The first one I saw was when we were stationed in the Mojave Desert in California. The color of the bird was such brilliant blue among what seems to be a colorless environment. What is surprising even among what can seem so ugly there is beauty. Like watching the sun set behind the mountain there on the post. Or laugh about the fact that a desert tortoise can stop the whole army brigade during manuever because those tortoises are on the endangered list. I could have felt angry because we were stuck out in the middle of nowhere. The closet town was about forty miles from the gate. And we spent two summers of 120 plus degrees there. So for me I try to focus on what brings me joy. And if it doesn’t build up it may be a good time to let it go.
There are a couple of books that I have heard about but haven’t read yet. “The Cozy Life: Rediscovering the Joy of the Simple Things” by Pia Edberg; “The Year of Living Danishly” by Helen Russell; and “Essentialism” by Greg Mckeown
The Bible helps me a lot too. The book of Philippians is known as the Joy book of the Bible. And Prayer helps me too when I feel anger, frustration and such. And writing out the good things helps me too. Cause I can get all jumbled up inside. And for health reasons I have to be careful what I let in. And something my pastor said, If you get upset about what is on the news turn it off and do something that is more fun.
Those are some of the things I do when things don’t seem right.
I should add too that a drive in the country, sewing, cross stitching, reading, classical music are all my stress releases too. Even housecleaning can be soothing. Strange I know. :)
No, I get it. I cleaned the bathroom yesterday. It helped!
Good advice from your pastor, Trina! Thank you for your suggestions – much appreciated!
Yesterday in my comment I talked about the need for balance. I know that my goal is balance but I find that some days are harder than others. I have finally realized that I am in fight or flight mode which is a natural defense mechanism of the body when the human percieves danger. After many years of therapy I have learned mindfulness practices that are quite helpful to me: simple meditation (or prayer), yoga or simple stretching exercises, coloring, reading, cuddling my dog, talking about my feelings/worries with my girlfriends.
Oh, that’s so true! I didn’t think of it as Fight or Flight but you’re absolutely right!
Thank you, Carolyn Marie.
This time in our life, especially, we miss our Scout.
https://medium.com/@jakefuentes/the-immigration-ban-is-a-headfake-and-were-falling-for-it-b8910e78f0c5#.1zlvjdptp
Claudia, someone shared this on FB (I’m not sure if the link will work) but it is interesting reading and basically what I’ve thought all along.
As for finding balance, I’m still working on it. I’ve awoken to what can only be described as very mild panic attacks. I can’t go back to sleep afterwards and it replays over and over in my head. :(
I think they’re all head fakes and that something sinister is going on behind the scenes. I’ll read that link, Chris. Thank you.
I seem to have the same thing going on. I wake up and realize that it wasn’t a dream and my heart rate goes up and then…
You asked the questions, “How do we find balance? How do you find balance?” Having a connection” with other like minded individuals in your community helps. If you don’t already have a church family, I highly recommend you look into your local United Methodist Church. This website might be of interest to you: http://www.umc.org. The phrase “Think Globally, Act Locally” comes immediately to mind. It is a way of putting one’s values/faith into actions. Do all Methodists agree on all subjects? We are a diverse group which includes/included Hilary Clinton, Bob Dole, George McGovern, and Laura Bush. All of us are on our own faith journey in life and must act accordingly on how to make the world better.
Thank you, M. I appreciate your suggestions!
Balance and coping are really tough ones nowadays. I’m not on Facebook , nor do I tweet, but my daughters talked me into a an Instagram a while back and I enjoy that. I “follow” you Claudia, as well as Jim Parsons, Mayim Balik, Bill Maher and my friends and family. That’s it. (maniccolls) . I read all of the time, embroider and take care of my home, my husband and garden. I try hard to be a good citizen. I value nature. So far I’m not coping very well because as soon as I distract myself, the Big Awful offends .
Ah, you’re maniccolls! Now I’ve put it together! Instagram helps, if only to look at interesting photographs.
It seems to be possible to distract ourselves for just a short time. But it’s better than nothing.
Thank you, Melissa.
I have to admit that I am having very difficult time finding my own balance among all this chaos. I have been trying since November to find this balance. I meditate most mornings. I do yoga often and exercise most days helping with the stress. I’ve found myself listening to Native American Flutes sometimes all day. I find a lot of peace by listening to them. I sage my home often and use incense as well.
I have to limit my time online and in reading Twitter. I closed my Facebook account a few years ago because I could not handle all of the drama and negativity that goes on there. I don’t watch the news on television and I avoid the sound of that person’s voice at all costs. I can’t say that I’ve found my balance with doing my part and staying sane. I will keep striving to find that balance.
For me it’s just a day by day thing. I am a very emotional person and I have an anxiety disorder to add to that and have suffered from depression. So I have to be aware and very careful of how things going on around me affect my life. It’s a daily struggle and our country’s current situation surely doesn’t make it any easier. I try to find peace in the small things such as a nice hot bath, baking, reading, a good movie, music, a hug from my husband. The little things are keeping me sane right now. I sure do miss my babies Nash and Mister and could use a hug from those furry little guys.
May we all find that balance that works for each of us. Sending good thoughts, prayers and energy to all those here. Have a blessed day.
I understand. I am very emotional, as well. And I take this all in and can’t let it go. Don is having the same problem. I was taking hot baths in Hartford, but have not done so since coming home, probably because Don and I are watching some old movie or something when I would normally take a bath. I miss my Scoutie as well. Oh, what I wouldn’t give to hold her and pet her! Instant lowering of blood pressure.
Thank you, Belinda.
belinda …
many of your words could easily be written about me; i, too, am a very emotional person who must fight a tendency towards depression and anxiety. i hope you feel better.
kathy in iowa
I go hiking. The look down from the mountains brings peace. I embrace trees. Oaks are the best, but lime trees and willows are good too.
Hiking is a very good stress reducer. Thank you, Regula!
I lost my baby just three weeks ago today. He was almost 18, so I have known it was coming for some time. It is amazing how much love and comfort a dog (or cat )can give and how easy they make it to love and take care of them in return.
I’m so very sorry, Beverly. Oh, how hard it is. I’m sending you a big hug. xo
beverly … sorry for your loss. i hope you can focus on the happy memories and, someday, that wonderful reunion with your furry baby. :)
kathy in iowa
I had a doctors appointment with a new doctor today. There were pages of questions concerning medical history, etc. one section asked about depression and it made me pause. I had to really think, should I put yes?
I have decided to look at the news in limited doses, almost how you filter a scary movie through you fingers. I will continue to read the news and blogs who discuss this mess. But I really think if I dwell on this 100% it will affect my health. I will continue to walk and heavy duty house/barn cleaning to relieve the stress. My poor dog (bless him) has been the canary in the coal mine. When he decides to go in his open crate vs. sleeping at my feet, I know it is an issue
I think we’re all rather depressed – whether it’s clinical or not, I don’t know. But a feeling of depression, along with fear and anxiety must be a very common response to what’s going on.
Walking, cleaning – all of it helps. Thank you, Jay.
This morning as I was drinking coffee I heard that Tamaron Hall left NBC because they are taking the 9AM (3rd hour) of the Today show away from her and Al and giving it to (wait for it)…. Meghan Kelly. So, Tamaron walked away from NBC (including her MSNBC show) when they told her last Friday. I have said this a thousand times,,,,,, but I feel like this whole mess is a really bad episode of Candid Camera in Hell. It can’t be real. But, it is.
When I retired 7 years ago, I found peace in my days. In so very many ways. My job had been quite high pressured, and I was beyond happy. I have had a beautiful retirement. Until November 8. I am literally afraid to go to the Dr. for my annual BP check because I know that it is off the charts. And it angers me that this is my personal result of this mess….. but that anger just raises it even more. ugh.
When I heard that he is the first to demand that the helicopter is shut off when it lands or takes off……….. SO HIS HAIR DOESN’T BLOW AROUND…… well, do we laugh or cry about that?
My birds have been pretty active this week. Fun to watch, for sure. We have a heated bird bath for them, and they do seem to love it. Not to mention the 8 feeders out there for their pleasure!! I am so very anxious for spring to arrive. Just getting into the dirt and digging in it does the soul much good. Have a good Thursday, Claudia. ♡
Just read a post on a blog your sister recommended http://johnpavlovitz.com/2017/02/02/its-time-we-stopped-calling-donald-trump-a-christian/ I hope EVERYONE reads it.
I’ve mentioned him on this blog in the past. Both Mere and I are real fans. I subscribe to his posts!
I really like her and I’m angry that they replaced her with Megyn Kelly, who sat there spouting crap all those years she worked for Fox News. Very depressing.
Oh my god. His hair blowing? There’s a picture of it doing just that out there on the web. I’ve seen it several times.
I would love it if it were time to garden. That would help a lot!
Thanks, Chris.
Last fall, we had to place my mother, who had lived with us for the past seven years, in a nursing home. She has Alzheimer’s and along with that her physical health is not good so she needed much more care than we could give her at home. About that same time, my wonderful husband of nearly 46 years was diagnosed with prostate cancer. Thankfully it is in the early stages and curable but while checking to make sure it had not spread to his bones, they found a large aortic aneurysm on the upper part of his heart. According to the doctor, this type of aneurysm was caused by an injury. Also during all this time, we were reeling from the shock of the election and what has happened since. As of now, we are waiting to see if my husband will need open heart surgery or if the aneurysm can be repaired with a new type of surgery they are doing for this. Once that is done, then he will start radiation for the cancer. I hear you when you say you need balance. I have had to block many of my friends and family on facebook, etc. because I just get too upset reading their” pro orange one” posts. I just cannot imagine how anyone could in any way support this man….boggles my mind. With all the other things we are facing, we try to limit the news but do watch it enough to know what is going on. I am crocheting, quilting, reading, coloring and Ed (my husband) is working on latch hook rugs, and we take walks…..outside if the weather permits, on the treadmill when it doesn’t. We watch old TV shows, movies, meditate and pray, and just try to get through the day. I am sorry for such a long comment but I wanted you to know how much your posts mean to me. I read your blog every morning. I always read the comments and very much enjoyed reading Don’s post about the march. Thank you for sharing your life, your thoughts and your world with us!
Oh, Lorinda. I’m so sorry that you have to face all of that. I hope your husband will heal quickly. My dad had an aortic aneurysm, but it was in his abdomen. I understand the worry about a procedure. Thinking of you and sending healing your thoughts your way.
Take care of yourself and yes, try to limit what you expose yourself to do in terms of news. Find peaceful moments together. xo
I haven’t found balance. Too terrified. Truly terrified. I do smoosh Petey to death when I get home at night. He thinks I’m bonkers. Noble returns in a couple of weeks so at least I will have distraction. I am too obsessed to step away. Sleep is a distant memory.
I am terrified as well.
Having Noble at home will help. I miss my Scoutie. She would have had a grounding effect on me. And Don.
Hi, I wanted to thank you so much for your heartfelt writing about what is going on in our country. I feel so frustrated and powerless, it is so hard to watch what is happening! And no one seems to do anything that has the power to do so. I wanted to thank you, there are lots of us reading what you write and agree totally. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your kind words, Alice. Take care of yourself.
I am a anxious person person, so I can tell you how I handle my life in general! I love your idea of pockets of time during the day. Very similar to what I do. I call mine “finding moments of peace”. When I realize that the troubles and worries of my day, or night, have left me, I make a point of remember what I was thinking, saying, watching, reading or doing when I felt peace. Unfortunately I find it most when I am doing housework. So I have started praying instead of worrying needlessly. If my worry is something that need addressing, I make a point to sit down with the tools I need: paper, pen and figure out what needs doing and how to go about it. Then when that is done, I make a point to put it all away until I need to address it again, or to move forward to another step. And then go looking for the peace. I have worried enough for now! Find peace and joy. I can pick up my worries again when it is time. Wish I had thought of this years and years ago. It does work. I don’t feel like I need to obsess every minute of my day.
All very good ideas and tools for those of us who are trying desperately to find some balance.
I find myself saying “Let Go and Let God” over and over again. It’s a sort of mantra, I guess.
Thank you so much, Tana.
I feel the same way you do Claudia. I spent this morning puttering around my home, 70’s music playing, dinner cooking in the crock pot….I felt very peaceful and relaxed. Then I turned on the news and I am angry and alarmed all over again. I agree we must pay attention and we must make our voices heard. As alarmed as I am, I am also proud of the way people are getting involved. My husband is going with a group to visit our Republican representative’s local office tomorrow to bring our concerns. I would like to go but will be caring for a granddaughter tomorrow. I think it is important to try to find some ways to act in a positive/constructive manner. Writing letters or emails, phone calls, donations if able. At least I feel I am doing something.
About the bluebirds: I live in West Michigan and I have never seen bluebirds in Jan/Feb til this year. We usually see them in the spring. I have been wondering if they are here because Jan was so much warmer than usual. Whatever the reason, they do add a bright spot to the day.
I wonder about the bluebirds. I saw them last year as well. Interestingly I never see them in the spring or summer! They may be here for the reason you’ve suggested. The weather is changing and the habits of wildlife are changing as well!
Thanks, Marilyn!
My own feelings echo Don’s view; this is a long distance run. Not the shorter runs popular today, but the genuine original 26 mile marathon through all types of terrain and weather. It is a necessary skill to learn self preservation by physically and emotionally taking care of ourselves. My husband is a triple cancer patient and we had to learn that skill to survive. Never thought he would ever be a cancer patient; didn’t smoke, is tall and slim, played volleyball at lunchtime (weather permitting) and played golf at least one day each week. But in his normal checkup, small bumps were found on his prostate; even his Dr. thought they weren’t a problem but the biopsy found cancer on half of those tested. My husband was in his late 60’s and we were prepared to see this through; his only sibling died of prostate cancer in 1995 (it had spread) so our fear was very real. During his last prostate treatment, 2 different kind and separate cancers were found in his bladder. We never gave up and took him to M D Anderson in Houston. He was under their care, but allowed us to have the chemo done by his oncologist at home and going to Houston at 6week intervals; then with surgery in Houston. He couldn’t tolerate the exceptionally strong chemo, collapsed and was in critical condition; at one point he wasn’t expected to survive the night. He did not leave us; frail and weak we had to get him strong enough to undergo 7 and a half hours of surgery in Houston. We had to learn perseverance and grit. The situation in this country at this point is very much like a fight with cancer. Cancer is a living enemy; it grows and tries to take your life just like “you know who”.
You may be familiar with this video, but if not, it will make you cheer. The video is on Pamela Terry’s instagram account. I highly recommend it to you and all your readers! It is of the British Parliament offering outspoken views of Trump. I know you will be grateful for their words. Dianne
Oh, Dianne, you have been through so much. My thoughts are with you and your husband as you navigate all of this. I think your analogy is an apt one. Fighting the living enemy, an enemy which mutates and changes and becomes something very dangerous.
I will check out the video, Dianne. And thank you for sharing your thoughts.
I have some very heavy stuff going on in my personal life since December. Stuff I’d never hoped to encounter. (For once, it’s not my health; not my cancer.) So, this coupled with what’s going on in the country, has left me physically exhausted. I fight for energy. The latest thing is that as I end a meal, my throat closes up. I’m going to the doctor soon; I guess we’ll figure it out. But I know it’s stress. Sleep has become completely disrupted. I can’t turn off my brain.
So, the question you pose is relevant but also hard to answer. How do we deal with what’s before us, each of us in our own lives? What are the coping mechanisms? Not everybody has what other people have. Maybe they don’t have a husband they can talk to. Maybe they don’t have a best friend they can confide in or go out to lunch with on Sunday. A lot of people have struggles; are struggling. A lot of people struggle…alone.
I can’t follow my own advice. I try to sink myself into a work of fiction…to escape…but my attention span can’t handle it. Music isn’t doing it for me either. Renewing with nature is important but I find the effect leaves me too quickly. I’ve caught myself in the familiar default act of eating wrong and too much…and shopping online. (When I said, for the new year, I’d eat more mindfully and curb the spending.) Thrown off course; that’s me. I wake up every morning feeling like I need to throw up.
So, is anything helping? Well, I’m grateful for blogs like yours, where you let us talk some things out; thank you for your patience and generosity on that. Favorite old movies help, for a little while. My dog curled up around me; she’s everything that’s good; I’ve never loved her more. I don’t work at an outside job but, even when I don’t feel well, I make myself get out of the house every single day; I get in the car and go somewhere, even if it’s just half an hour; see something different; talk to someone/anyone, like a mail clerk or the person next to me in line at the grocery store (not about politics or my personal situation; remembering what it was to have other topics…). I know of a woman who can’t do that, but she wheels out into the front area of her apartment for a certain amount of time each day, just so that she can chat with passersby, feel the air, watch the world from her wheelchair; bravo to her!
I’m heavily editing what I watch on TV in terms of news programs/”talk” news/panels of ‘experts’ (like CNN, MSNBC; never Fox). I’m also decluttering as a daily to-do. It’s really hard to be motivated about it, but it’s necessary for every reason. Sometimes I don’t know what/where to start, so I’ll just pick one drawer or one shelf or one corner of a room. I’m cleaning out the pantry this afternoon and taking some/one sackful, whatever I come up with, to Community Assistance tomorrow; there are people who are hungry out there, and I can share my inventory. Food is so expensive and it’s ridiculous to have stuff on hand that I’m not using or are close to their expiration dates; things we bought that just got buried for some reason or, due to diet changes, just aren’t eating. Hate’s a strong word, but I hate waste.
“They say” that the best way to get out of your own head is to reach out and do something for someone else, in whatever way you can.
I’m soon to resume something I’d started, then stopped. Swimming, twice a week, maybe once a week for now…at a ‘plunge’ in a nearby city. I’m not saying I enjoy it, and it’s not without effort. But it’s good for my health…and exercise is a great way to diffuse negative vibe.
And pray. Really pray. Not just pray when it’s convenient or if I’m feeling scared. Pray as a daily ‘must’. Set aside time for it; do it right. If you believe in a higher power, you need prayer more than ever now.
Staying on ‘high alert’ with anything is draining. I want to curtail some of the ‘current events’ vigilance, but I also don’t want to be one of those people who weren’t paying attention to a new and disturbing shift of power in government. There’s a bad consequence to lukewarm awareness. As many here have said, just look at world history. I have to hope there are…I absolutely KNOW there are…also bright/SANE minds in government who have a bigger profile/presence, speaking out on my behalf. But is that enough? To trust, to rely upon people I actually DID vote for, to fight against what’s so wrong? I don’t have all the answers on that yet. This is uncharted territory for me. Politics has never been high on my priority list of subjects I like. I’ve let myself be lulled into the idea that my country could never topple, that the Courts-Constitution-Congress will always protect me.
I liked what you said, Claudia, about putting money where the mouth is; supporting with whatever you can give. If anything, just start a coin jar; a piggy bank. When it’s full, turn the coins into cash and send it to organizations who carry the voice you believe in. Or put down on the calendar that every Wednesday, you’re going to write a paper letter that somebody has to read and not just hit ‘delete’ – they have to open an envelope with a letter opener; it’s just the cost of one stamp (which supports the U.S. Postal Service, after all). It could be to your state’s senator, your local reps; even the U.S. President. Make it a habit. Don’t give it up.
This is all I can come up with right now, Claudia. I’m confused and just trying to wade the waters.
I think we’re all trying to wade the waters. After running some errands today, Don called me and said “Let’s go take some photographs!” and he came by and picked me up. Now, it was very, very windy and cold, and we couldn’t stay out there for long, but it helped to change my mood and I needed it.
Thank you so much for all your thoughts and suggestions – they’re very helpful. I meant to start purging when I got home, but I’ve been rather paralyzed that way. I also thought I might start in again on the half-scale dollhouse. Can’t get excited about it. And that’s the problem. This nightmare seems to take over.
This is the kind of thing that just baffles me. From The Hill:
Arnold Schwarzenegger immediately took to Twitter to respond to President Trump’s Thursday morning comments about ratings for reality show “Celebrity Apprentice” at the National Prayer Breakfast. During his opening remarks at the annual breakfast, Trump pointed to his “tremendous success” on “Celebrity Apprentice” and blasted the former California governor, who took over as host when Trump launched his presidential bid. “They hired a big, big movie star, Arnold Schwarzenegger to take my place, and we know how that turned out,” Trump said at the breakfast. “The ratings went right down the tubes. It’s been a total disaster…” In his Twitter video, Schwarzenegger suggested that the president could switch with him and come back to his reality show. “Hey Donald I have a great idea. Why don’t we switch jobs? You take over TV, because you’re such an expert in ratings, and I take over your job,” said Schwarzenegger… “And then people can finally sleep comfortable again. Hmm?” A spokesman for Schwarzenegger also sent a statement to ABC News following Trump’s Thursday remarks. “Arnold is praying that President Trump can start improving his own approval ratings, which were the worst in history for an incoming president, by taking his job seriously and working inclusively,” spokesman Daniel Ketchell said in the statement.
How is it that some stupid thing like a TV show, with EVERYthing that is going on in America and the world right now, even be on a U.S. President’s mind? This is no time for the small sh*t. It is so completely undignified. This is the Office of The President of The United States; don’t sully it. How can you expect anyone to ever look up to you in that Office, if you’re so petty? Of anything, it’s just so completely inappropriate. This isn’t leadership. How can we endure four years of this? What will we be at the end of four years?
I had heard that FIC said something today about Schwarzenegger. He’s done it before. First of all, how is that remotely appropriate for a National Prayer Breakfast? He is obsessed with anyone he feels is competition. He can’t let it go. He is a friggin’ idiot. It does not look good for the President to talk this way, to even be concerned about something like this. I tell you, I can’t endure four years of it. He has to be arrested or impeached. Nothing less will do. And it has to happen soon.
I would give anything for Arnold to be in the oval office. Whatever I think of him, he’s had some experience in governing and his intentions are good. He would be a welcome relief!
Yeah, I’ve had a lot of ’emotion’ over Arnold…he was, of course, my state’s governor. I didn’t have any major problems with the way he and Maria Shriver held court in those years. He’s likeable; he’s patriotic. His personal life? Well, we won’t go there. Reports of bad behavior have dogged him for a long, long time; he’s admitted to some of it at least. But I loved his response here above. He stated last fall that, even though he was a Republican (for I think over 30 years), he wouldn’t be voting for the Republican nominee for President.
Good post today, Claudia. This all helped. Thank you for your thoughts and encouraging the conversation.
You’re welcome! xo
By the way, when I just ramble on and sometimes make no sense, I hope I made it abundantly clear that I do NOT watch Fox News. I will say, however, there was a time when I thought Maria Bartiromo was interesting to listen to; I was disappointed when Tucker Carlson made the switch to Fox from CNN/MSNBC (had, back in the day, high hopes for him). These ‘news’ people keep moving from one news network to another, of course. I do have respect for Neil Cavuto when it comes to business news. (My parents watched Fox News a lot so, especially in their latter years when I was a big presence in their lives as caregiver, these commentators were constantly on the television, which was constantly ON, not off, in my parents’ home.) I’m glad Greta Van Susteren made the move to MSNBC; I think she’s brainy and remember her so vividly from the OJ trial (CNN days). I believe she comes from a family circle of Republicans, but I have felt she tries to be fair/unbiased (and human). We all have our own opinions of these folks, of course…and opinions are always also subject to change. But even Wiki says, “Fox News Channel has been accused of biased reporting and promoting the Republican Party. Critics have cited the channel as detrimental to the integrity of news overall. Fox News Channel employees have responded that news reporting operates independently of its opinion and commentary programming, and have denied bias in news reporting.”
I never really liked Tucker Carlson but from the few clips I’ve seen of him on FOX, he’s gone off the deep end. Never lets anyone get a word in edgewise, is rude and boorish.
FOX is the propaganda machine for the Republican Party and the FIC. Two anchors, Chris Wallace and Shepard Smith, seem to have a more balanced view of the world and of the state of the union. They seem to be willing to go against the norms at that station and I applaud them.
I forgot about Chris Wallace and I do remember Shep Smith compassionately, not sensationally, reporting during Katrina.
xo
Hi Claudia,
At yoga last week, our instructor read us a mediation poem to close our practice. It stuck with me, and I finally reached out to her and asked her to send it to me. It is at this link, at the very bottom of this woman’s blog post. I find it incredibly helpful.
Like everyone here says, get off social media and news sites. Crazy-making.
That being said, while listening to David Greene and Rachel Martin the other morning on NPR, I sensed fear in both of their voices. The fact that these seasoned, professional journalists could not hide their concern made me feel very sad.
Finally, yoga, because punching people is frowned upon :) In fact, I am an athlete, so I find all kinds of solace in the various things I do to work up a sweat!
And aromatherapy, because it really helps.
You are not alone in your outrage. Hang in there.
Oh, that’s ominous, hearing that fear in their voices. Something has to happen to get that man out of the oval office.
Thanks so very much, Lisa Marie1
Shoot! I got so wrapped up in my note to you I forgot the link to the poem: https://www.judysorumbrown.com/blog/breathing-space
Sorry!!
Thank you! I read it and it’s very powerful and wise.
How am I handling all this? Funny you should ask. Not well! And I was thinking about that late last night. I’m worried, although my son tells me not to worry about things over which I have no control. And, let’s face it…we do not have control over what FIC is doing. My BP is elevated I am sure…I just have to make sure I take my pills. We have been listening to the morning news for years…I may have to change that. But, I am not on Facebook nor Twitter, except for checking what my sons may have posted.
I am starting to get back to purging and reorganizing…anything to distract me. I long for Spring. And, I crave humor! Anything to get me to laugh! I think Don is right…we are in a marathon….slow and steady. I will now get back to regular cooking….that’s therapeutic for me. And now that we are fully entrenched in basketball season…we are watching the Badgers!
Basically…it’s one day at a time…and one distraction at a time! And fight as best I can! ;)
One day at a time is exactly what it is. Today, I’ve managed to keep away from the news. I know what’s going on, but I haven’t read anything in detail. Don and I went to take some photos outside today – the weather and clouds were spectacular. That helped. The other night Don and I laughed at something and it felt so good!
There is an account on Twitter called @TrumpDraws. It is very, very funny. If you ever want a laugh, visit it.
I am not coping well at all. I have never suffered from anxiety and depression until very recently. I have taken the Facebook and twitter apps off both my iPad and iPhone. I have had heated discussions with my parents, both are Trump supporters. I never in a million years thought you would hear me say “I am embarassed of my parents”. I try to listen to more music, watch more movies and just joined the Y so I can exercise more easily in the winter months. I have had trouble staying focused on books, unfortunately- that has never been a problem before. I think we are headed for war.
Doing any housework,decluttering, etc. is good because you are in control and accomplishing something. And you can see the results immediately.
Deep belly breathing is good to calm yourself quickly. Breathe in through your nose for a count of 5, hold for 2 and breathe out through your mouth for 5. You will feel better in just a couple minutes.
Knit, crochet, latchhook, cross stitch. Anything with repetitive motion is soothing. You should try it even if you’re not in the mood. Once you get started you will start relaxing.
On Pinterest I saw a pin for a song which provides many health benefits. It is called Waitless by Marconi Union. Get comfortable and close your eyes and listen to it. I guarantee it works!
I love what Arnold’s response to Chester Cheeto was. I haven’t had a decent night of sleep since the inauguration. It’s must be really starting to show because people keep asking if I’m alright. : ) I went to the craft store and bought a huge bag of yarn to crochet a throw.
I definitely need to work on balance!
I loved his response as well. Good for him!
Crocheting a throw sounds like a great thing to do. Who knows? I may begin a third throw (I’ve already made two.)
I fear that we are, too. I’m sorry you’re having trouble Karen and I know that having opposite viewpoints within the family – especially with this situation – has to be very, very stressful. Sending you a hug. xo
Part of what I think is so difficult for us – in coping with the current situation – is that most of us have lived ALL OUR LIVES in safety & peace. “Being scared” is brand new for us. It’s actually been a shock to our systems. For us, existential threats were always someplace ELSE. Even 9-11 ended up being a single-day event. And we really could – for the most part – trust that our leaders had our best interests at heart & were doing everything they could to prevent war or to avoid sending our troops anywhere. Incredibly, we no longer can say that. But I’m a student of history, so I’m choosing to treat this time as if I were living in Britain after war was declared on Sept 3, 1939. For anyone who’s seen ‘The King’s Speech’ you get a very real sense of the foreboding the British people experienced then, at the end of the movie when Queen Elizabeth’s father George VI is making his most important speech ever. A speech which helped to galvanize his people to sacrifice & withstand what they could only imagine at the time. If the British people, standing against the Nazi war machine on their tiny island more than 70 years ago, can do it, we can do it now against an unpopular, unqualified, inexperienced & incompetent mentally-ill President & his equally-incompetent Cabinet. Peace. #Resist
Yes. Exactly. We haven’t had to deal with this before. Thank you, Janet. Peace and Resist.
A friend just posted the following on her FB. I thought it was pretty great advice.
I LOVE this…. takes away the personality so we can focus on the policies. I especially LOVE #1 (he who must not be named. lol)
This seems like some good advice below. George Lakoff spoke Sunday and he said words matter and 98% of or our thoughts are unconscious.
1. Don’t use his name;
2. Remember this is a regime and he’s not acting alone;
3. Do not argue with those who support him–it doesn’t work;
4. Focus on his policies, not his orange-ness and mental state;
5. Keep your message positive; they want the country to be angry and fearful because this is the soil from which their darkest policies will grow.
6. No more helpless/hopeless talk
7. Support artists and the arts
8. Be careful not to spread fake news. Check it. TEACH OTHERS HOW TO RECOGNIZE AND CHECK IT!
9. Take care of yourselves; and
10. Resist! Copy to paste to your wall.
Thank you, Kim. Love this!
Claudia, look up the lyrics to On theTurning Away by Pink Floyd. My husband and I were listening to it and we got the chills.
I will. Thank you, Kim!
I just bought some new Sorel boots that will keep my feet warm and make it more likely I will go out for an evening walk with my husband. We watched the News Hour for a bit, I was trying on my boots, and then suggested, ‘Let’s go for a walk.’ My husband was a little surprised because I have been tending to retreat and stay back when he has been going for a walk after dinner. We were both glad to be outside in the fresh but cold air, holding hands, and looking up to see the midnight blue of the sky, and taking in the moon and the stars.
It sounds simply lovely! Good for you!
I had a pair of Sorel boots when I lived in Boston. I loved them!
I found myself wanting to applaud on your time several of these comments (and I did, some).
As I read, I realized something. I have no idea who many of these “news” people are that folks are talking about.
Well over 30 years ago, something that I was knowledgeable about was reported in a manner that made me upset and angry. As I observed then (and am trying to keep in mind now) reading reports gave me the opportunity to analyze the information, tone and agenda of said report. Radio went by so quickly that I would still be noting a trigger word when another would fly by. Television news can not exist if they cannot get our attention, therefore, accuracy bows to provocation as well as corporate bias. With print media in hand, I can literally strike out everything that attempts to tell me how to feel, even if I think I want to feel that way. What is left may be bare facts. Inclusion and exclusion are bias. We never have all the facts.
What I’m trying to say, in my wordy way, is that I agree with limiting the news flow. We know it’s all manipulated. When information is received, acting before confirming is destructive, think I. Now, I could have saved myself many heart racing, red faced rants, if I had kept this in mind. :) I find that, while skipping news reports, I still get information – often far more than I want or think I need. I sometimes look it up, using that same principle, finding something to read, rather than listening to someone who wants to tell me what to think.
Coping mechanisms… many have good suggestions.
I wish you could visit some animals you could cuddle.
Missing my mother after nearly nine years, I might suggest brightening the day of an elderly person. I am fortunate to still have my 91 year old father.
There is great joy and peace in blessing children. Downs kids can be a particular joy.
I know walking helps. I don’t do it, much.
Dark chocolate. Now, that I can do.
Sing. When you don’t feel like it is the best time to sing.
Give thanks. When you don’t feel like it is the best time to give thanks.
Now, here is a tough one. I require Divine facilitation with this one. Do not allow yourself to fall into the fatal trap of hating any person. Not the same as hating what is done, as you know.
I commented on another comment and will enlarge upon it, now.
I would get my son ready for the day with his grandparents. There would still be time to fill before I could go visit my husband in the hospital. I would put in a movie. I noticed that my fists were still clenched.
I dragged out my knitting needles, cast on a few stitches and knit moss stitch or checkerboard until I was done and bind off. Repeat.
Over the years of his illness, my mother’s death and numerous other tragedies and stresses, I turned out over 200 scarves. If I didn’t like them, I unraveled them. I kept extra large needles as well as regular large needles available to switch off so I could knit for longer stretches.
One day I got to an outdoor graduation party (for my son’s sake – turned out to be for mine, as well) and realized I had forgotten my knitting. A wise friend gave me a foam cup to destroy. I tore it up, then tore those pieces.. well, you get the picture. It helped!
I gave away my scarves.
Some people asked to buy them. Wow!
I got yarn from thrift stores, discount stores and once from someone whose trunk stash caught my eye. When I asked about her project, she said she was donating the yarn and offered it to me. Free! :)
While my husband was in crisis we were using his paid vacation days to cover insurance payments, while it lasted. I had saved fun money. That was the way I bought gas and yarn. Groceries and bills, including medical co-payments, ate up our savings. Don’t cry for me. Many people have far worse difficulties and God is good to us.
So, knitting small projects helped. When I was focused on something important, knitting helped my stress level. When I needed something to focus on, trying something (often raveled) was helpful. :)
Making pictures and sharing them online was helpful.
Coloring with markers, pencils or crayons is still helpful.
Oh, here’s one I discovered 43 years ago. May not work for you. I was disposing of a broken glass piece into a metal trash can. I was not gentle. Amazed at how satisfying that dreadful noise was, I pulled out another piece and hurled it in. Wow! There is a silly online game of smashing Christmas ornaments. Lo! Behold! Hark! Even the recorded sound of breaking glass, controlled by me, of course, was joyfully stress reducing! :D Oh, my!
Alone time. Together time. Each has its benefits, for me.
Reading something light works when I can concentrate enough. Actually, there are books in the children’s section that can catch my attention and take me away, usually. (Dorp Dead by Julia Cunningham would be an exception example. I still shudder when I think of reading that as a child! )
I’ve been cutting up junk mail to glue together into art or crafts. When it stinks, it goes back into the recycling bin. Same for food packaging. Embrace imperfection! (Notice the clenched teeth in my perfectionist smile? It is a good drill, for me, and sometimes productive.) :)
My, how verbose I have been! Sorry. Hope any of it helps.
Claudia, because your personal life has been painfully stressful and you are experiencing potentially debilitating pain, in my opinion, you must care for yourself. You must come first. I suggest taking a deep breath and seeking to wisely pick your battles. I pray for you peace and joy in the midst of this. <3
What a great list, Aunt Lou! Thank you for all the time you put into this.
I, of course, just donated tons of yarn to the Salvation Army. About a month ago! So, if I start something new, I’ll have to buy inexpensive yarn (which I would do anyway) from Michael’s of Joann. I made so many scarves for my Etsy shop in the past few years (well over 100) that I can’t bear to make one at the moment!
I’ve limited news – never really watch it. And I control what I read in the paper.
Hate is a tough one, but you are so right. Hate the actions, not the person. I also require Divine Intervention.
I miss my dog. It will be a year next week since she left us and I have to say that, especially now, I would give anything to cuddle her. Ah, well. We pet the horses when we can. But they’re not exactly cuddly!
Bless you for this. xo
XO
Oh, hey! O don’t want to knit scarves, either. I found this: http://www.torviewtoronto.com/2011/01/knitted-soft-playing-ball.html
and now have two large cheese balls jars full of various sizes (and various softness-es) silly little balls besides the ones I have given away. My cat loving friends have taken some. My grand niece wanted them all, but my sister said, “One!” :) Now, unless I’m going to juggling school, I’ve got to figure out how anyone can utilize them. :P
Another sis says I could sell them. Not so sure… Like, for what?
Basically knit a rectangle 1X2. Sew up the side, gather the end with the same yarn, turn right side out, stuff, gather the remaining end. Great stash buster (sorry about yours!) and done in no time. Requires very basic skills. You may find them boring… :)
Or maybe not! These might be fun! Thanks, Aunt Lou.
:)
Claudia,This concept of Self-Care, NOT to be confused with Self Medicate
A joke A ha ha hca…….But not really, :^[
Judy A-
Oh, don’t think I haven’t thought of self-medicating!
I am trying to stay sane by staying off Facebook, limiting the amount of news I watch and being with people I enjoy. I am also volunteering a lot.
I wrote a thank you email to a republican senator who is apposeing De Vos and that felt good.
Yes, I am scared to death but I am putting faith in our system of government. I just don’t know what else to do except keep calling and writing our representatives.
We all need to stay healthy to keep up the fight. Take care of yourself.
Same here. I only go on FB to see who is having a birthday.
Stay healthy my dear friend and keep on fighting! xo
coming in a couple of days late. My mobile phone is not great for posting comments. Anyway, here’s an article I’ve been sharing with folks who are feeling overwhelmed by, well, everything.
https://medium.com/the-coffeelicious/how-to-stayoutraged-without-losing-your-mind-fc0c41aa68f3#.3kkjnw2co
Thank you Leanne. I believe I might have seen that, but I’m going to check it out. Any links like this are helpful for everyone. xo
First,
You look so pretty in the pink knit hat. You are just lovely, Claudia! Beautiful!
I read lots of the comments and you do have a bunch of thoughtful people following you and that has got to feel good.
And…I have to admit; I am having trouble accepting Greta into my world on MSNBC. I can not separate her from FOX. I have actually stopped watching the show as much as I did prior to her coming aboard That whole faux news show had me concerned for yrs and it is a source of misinformation for many. That bothers me because she was part of it… I love to watch Rachel and where did Ed go, and the Rev Sharpton? If they take Lawrence off to make room for Megan…well I guess I will stick with PBS.
I had slowed down on my diet of news since the election anyway so I can not blame Greta for that completely! It was the president..I just can’t take in too much of that at one sitting. I do sort of feel that now that Greta is on…well, it is a bit of a game of “sorta truth” and I had come to help myself feel good that MSNBC would keep it close to as real as they can come…
Naw…no more. why why why? I guess that is show business..Walter was of our childhood and teenage yrs.
I have a very good friend who is a “Camera guy” in New York. I talk with him regularly. It seems to be feast or famine with some the entertainment His last full time I guess was “a recent comedy talk show and that was dropped. He is so talented, so he is staying busy and those guys work harder than I ever knew!
You take care. I wish I had brought some wood in for tonight. It is getting a bit chilly and I love it!
I’m having the same trouble. Anyone who was at Fox News for, literally, years and who moves to MSNBC? Troubling.
Thank you for your kind words, Katheryn.
Pardon my typos..getting tired and narration has let me down or visa versa!
xo
I am comforted by the numbers of people with whom I share severe reaction to the moves our government is making. I faced a cancer scare this last month (benign I’m glad to say) but my feelings about how to live in this new world overwhelmed my fear of cancer. I haven’t found a balance and while I don’t particularly want to, I think it would be good for me to learn a new creative art. Making something beautiful seems a good way to balance the energy. Making a pink pussy hat quilted wall hanging or crocheting pink hats for cancer patients or making cage cozies for shelter animals. I don’t feel creative, but the items don’t have to be art, just useful in some way that is meaningful to me. Once a very spiritual friend told me about nuns who spend all day spinning prayer wheels in the mountains of Tibet. He believed that these small devotions helped keep the world spinning. Maybe use some of your quilt fabric to make prayer flags or clouthies (I think that’s what they’re called) for the trees in your forest to honor their spirits and remind you when you walk of peace and the will of nature to move on. I have half-garbled knowledge and understanding of these things, but they resonate with me and you can surely find more accurate info on-line. Right now we are too damaged to fight; I love the flight or fight analogy. Right now we need to calm down and comfort ourselves. I am speaking to myself as well. We older folks have been thru times kind of like this during the civil rights or war protests. As my sister put it, “We’ve been revolting before.” Humor helps, too. We need all the small but graceful acts of healing. Thank you for raising such important questions and for providing a space for healing and reflecting.
First, I’m happy that your scare is over and that all is well.
And I feel the same way you do. We’ll get through this. Spiritual practices, whether prayer flags or prayer wheels or any one of a number of things, will help. Community helps. And, of course, actions taken, whenever possible.
Don, by the way, calls out to our trees every morning, with a hearty “Good Morning!”