Having been through a period of anxiety several years ago, Don understands the enormity of it. He went through a particularly tough time several years ago. One of the tips he has passed on to me is to live in each moment. Now that sounds like something in a meme, but he doesn’t mean it quite that way. No, he means it specifically. He literally would say in each moment things like “I’m pouring the coffee now.” Or, “I’m cleaning my glasses.” He’d identify the activity and stay focused on reality. He did that with everything for a long time. It helped to keep him in the NOW rather than in a non-existent and frightening other kind of world. This small (or large) task is what I am doing now.
I think that’s what working a jigsaw puzzle (or a crossword puzzle) does for me. I am totally in the now. I’m examining the photo of the puzzle. I’m looking at the words on the puzzle pieces. I’m observing color and shape and trying to match it. I’m incredibly focused and that focus is entirely on the process. It’s also something I find to be true with working on my dollhouses. And I imagine knitting, crochet – well, actually, I don’t imagine, I know – painting, crafting; anything with a task and an activity helps with that as well. I know that knitting and crocheting do that for my sister. When I was engaging in those two activities, along with quilting, I called them my Zen. Gardening does that for me as well.
We all know this, but it’s important at any time, especially now, to have something that keeps you smack-dab in the moment and not in a place of worry or fear or what if or just plain general anxiety. Something that takes you away from those realms and grounds and centers you.
Right now, for me, it’s jigsaw puzzles. I feel my anxiety leave, my shoulders drop, and a feeling of peace comes over me. For Don, at the moment, it’s playing the guitar and writing songs and practicing his technique, as well as walking.
You all know this. I’m just putting it into words as I wrestle with my own anxiety. If I don’t have something around like a puzzle, I give myself a task. I clean the counters, for example, and stay focused on the actual activity. I don’t let my mind wander. I identify what I’m doing now.
Today, thank goodness, it’s sunny! It’s going to be in the sixties. So I’m going to engage in another anxiety reducer: gardening. Today that includes cleaning the potting table, cleaning the picnic table, working in one of the garden beds and weeding. Heaven.
Stay safe.
Happy Tuesday.