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To Those Incapable of Shutting Off Their Cellphones: Don’t Go to the Theater

August 11, 2015 at 9:02 am by Claudia

We’re in the middle of a drenching, heavy rain. It’s been going on all night and this morning was one of those mornings when, despite it being 7:30, the darkness of the sky made it seem as if it was the middle of the night. We really need the rain. It’s been very dry here for quite a while. The rivers are down, plants are wilting, and there are brown patches in the grass. I’m not complaining, as I know what we’re temporarily going through is nothing like the drought out west. Nevertheless, it’s really good to see a steady and heavy rain.

My gardens thank you. And I thank you, as I get a break from hand watering everything.

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Have you been reading about Benedict Cumberbatch? He’s doing Hamlet  in London – a sold-out run – and they’ve just started previews. He actually had to go outside and explain to theatergoers why they shouldn’t be texting, filming, and/or doing anything with their cell phones during the performance. And a few weeks back, Patti Lupone had to stop a performance to admonish an audience member about the same sort of thing. I applaud them for taking a stand. I am saddened that it’s become a pervasive issue in the theater. I hear about it all the time. I’ve witnessed it.

What have we come to? I cannot tell you how many times I have been watching a performance of a play I’m working on, only to see the glow coming from the screen of a cell phone, while audience members check their email or their text messages. I am ruthless about that sort of thing and I will get up from my seat, go down the aisle, and explain that actors can SEE that. They see the glow of a screen. They see any  sort of light emanating from the audience. They find it distracting. And it’s RUDE. Hell, if I see it from my vantage point at the back of the house, of course the actors can see it. People think they’re artfully concealing the whole thing, but they’re not. Or, they simply don’t care because they are tethered to their cell phones and cannot stop.

If that is the case, I beg of you, don’t go to the theater. Don’t go to any live event where the performers are acting or singing or playing their hearts out for you. When you pull out your phone, even for a millisecond, you are disconnecting from the live experience. You are losing the thread. You are saying that your little life that is encapsulated in the tiny screen of your cell phone is more important than a once-in-a-lifetime theatrical performance. A performance, by the way, that you paid a hefty sum to see.

Oh, and by the way, don’t do it in a movie theater, either. Because, if I’m sitting there and can see it, I become distracted. I get angry. And then I have to ask you to turn off your phone. Or, better yet, get an usher to make the request. Edited to add: Please read Martha’s comment and her note of caution as to directly confronting someone, especially in what might be a dicey situation.

I know I’m speaking to the choir here, so the ‘you’ I mention is that ‘you’ that seems completely oblivious to the whole thing, the ‘you’ that is in his/her own little cellular world.

There is a huge and ever widening group of people who are addicted to their phones. It’s as if a cellphone has suddenly come to symbolize a full, rich life. A falsehood, to be sure, but one that a lot of people buy into.

I love the convenience of my smart phone and, being on the road rather frequently, I need it. So I am not one to rant about cellphones in general. I need one. But I am not tethered to it. I shut it off when I’m in rehearsal. I shut it off when I’m in a theater or a concert hall. Heck, half the time, I forget to turn it on when I’m not on the road.

What I’m really talking about is etiquette. There is a time and a place for checking your messages, for making a call, for taking pictures, or shooting a video. That place is not during a performance. It’s rude. It’s disrespectful. And in the case of video and photos, it’s illegal.

Okay. I am now stepping off the soapbox.

But, I have to tell you, this kind of thing can really set me off. And it seems to be getting worse all the time.

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The hollyhocks – check out the blossom to the left. What do you see?

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If you answered a spider, you’re right. He’s been hanging around that flower for a couple of days.

Oh, and Don saw Henry/Henrietta yesterday. Sightings are rare these days, however.

Happy Tuesday.

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On Absolutes

December 29, 2014 at 9:24 am by Claudia

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I’m thinking out loud today.

Thought I really don’t follow astrology, I am a Scorpio. And Scorpios seem to be people who feel passionately about all sorts of things. That certainly is true about me. I tend to lead with my heart, though I’m getting much better at balancing that with some wise input from my head. It’s something I’ve struggled with over the years.

Some of the things I feel passionately about I wouldn’t change for a second. Those issues and/or beliefs form the core of who I am, who I’ve become during the course of my life. I could not abandon them.

But then there are the new things or changes that I sometimes have an immediate reaction to as in “I will never do that!” These are what I call ‘absolutes.’ I’m sure Don has heard many absolutes spring forth from my lips over the years. He’s a patient guy. He simply nods in acceptance. Though, sometimes he challenges me to look at the whole thing differently, playing the part of the devil’s advocate. That’s a good thing.

One of the things I am working on is releasing my tendency to be quick to judge – whether it involves a person, a situation (which is undoubtedly more complex than I deem it to be) or something new that I tend to immediately judge and reject.

I distinctly remember when cell phones first started to become popular. My reaction at the time? “I don’t want everyone to be able to contact me at any time of the day!” I didn’t want students calling me all the time. I didn’t want someone to be able to call me when I was driving my car. I didn’t want to be ‘on call.’ So I resisted for quite a while. But when Don and I moved across the country, driving two different vehicles, we realized that we needed cell phones to communicate with each other. (We also used walkie-talkies!) And we realized that it was a good idea to have a cell phone in case of emergencies.

I’ve used various incarnations of the cell phone. Now I have an iPhone and I love it. It works well, it takes good photos, I can access my email, which is something I do most often when I’m working away from home. I can check the weather, I can listen to music when I’m sitting on a noisy train headed into the city. I don’t often use it to go online, though I know many people do. I don’t have my head buried in it, either. I use it when necessary and I love it’s convenience. It’s made a difference in my life, which is often spent away from home for weeks at a time.

Yes, I find people who talk loudly and endlessly on their cell phones annoying and rude. Yes, I shake my head at those who walk around the city with their heads downward, immersed in whatever is on their screen. As with anything, there are those who will go overboard, who will push the boundaries of polite behavior. But that doesn’t mean I have to. It’s possible to have and use a cell phone without automatically plunging into the abyss.

My ‘absolute’ changed.

Similarly…the Kindle. If you search this blog I know that you’ll find some posts where I said I would absolutely never get an eReader. No way! I am a book lover and my love of the real deal, the three dimensional kind, is well documented, in life and on this blog.

An ‘absolute.’

Then, last Christmas, my husband mentioned that he wanted a Kindle Paperwhite. Okay. I researched it and found it to be intriguing. I thought about the demands of my life. Weeks spent away from home, a need to have lots of books on hand to read, not to mention the fact that I review books and many of them are easily downloaded as eGalleys/Review Copies. Oh, and I have a LOT of books and limited space in which to store them. The Paperwhite was sounding more and more intriguing. Much to my surprise, I asked Don to buy me one for Christmas!

I learned another valuable lesson. You can exist in both worlds. One doesn’t cancel out the other. There doesn’t have to be an ‘absolute.’ You’ve only to read the book blog or this blog to know how many hardcover and paperback books I buy. The quick answer? A lot.

But I also give away a lot of books because I have no room on my shelves for them.

The eReader gives me the chance to download several books if I’m going away to Hartford, for example, to work for five weeks. (I might add that at the same time I’m in Hartford, I also check out books from Hartford’s library – the three-dimensional kind.) The Kindle gives me access to lots of free books, especially classics. I use the Kindle to download review copies from various sources. It’s been invaluable in discovering new authors to review on Just Let Me Finish This Page and in reviewing books for this blog, as well.

I’ve found that my ‘absolute’ really doesn’t hold water. For me, clinging to that absolute would have narrowed the range of possibilities for me as a reader and book reviewer. Ultimately, it wouldn’t have served me well.

So I happily say, and did say on this blog, that I was wrong. Using an eReader didn’t mean I was abandoning hardcover/paperback books. If anything, I’ve purchased more than ever. I check books out from my local library. Sometimes I love the Kindle/eGalley version of a book so much that I purchase it in hardcover because I want it in my permanent collection.

Despite what some studies have stated, I retain just as much when I read an eBook as I do when I read a three-dimensional book. And, I can get a book immediately, if I so choose.

No abyss. Just, for me, a nicely workable balance between two different methods of reading.

Same thing with blogging, which is ever changing. I can adapt to some of those changes and, at the same time, retain the integrity of my blog. And I can certainly choose the things I want to embrace and reject those things that aren’t right for me. I’ve made a choice recently to accept the fact that there are all sorts of ways in which to blog and that the variety out there means there is something for everybody. It just adds spice to the blog stew and that’s a good thing. I’m letting go of those judgments. And really, what makes me think I have all the expertise and wisdom on any subject? Short answer: I don’t.

Some absolutes need to be re-examined. I find I’m doing that more often.

Heck, I once held an absolute that stated: “I will never get married. I don’t want to lose my independence. I need my alone time. Spending that much time with anyone would either bore me or drive me out of my mind.”

Thankfully, I smacked myself upside the head and re-examined that one when I met Don. I haven’t lost my independence. I do get my alone time. But here’s the thing: I’ve found that being with Don is my favorite place to be. I’m never bored. And if I go out of my mind, it’s not due to Don.

You can have the best of both worlds. One doesn’t negate the other.

Oh, the lessons I keep on learning.

New post up on Just Let Me Finish This Page.

Happy Monday.

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Filed Under: blogging, books, cell phones, life 40 Comments

Signifying Nothing

March 12, 2013 at 10:05 am by Claudia

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Gray. Rainy. So dark when I got up this morning I thought it was much earlier than it actually was.

Is anyone on LinkedIn? I am, and for the life of me, I can’t see that it has done or will do anything for my career. The same people link up with me there as do on Facebook. They already know about me. And why does anyone have to ‘endorse’ my skills? What is that all about? I’ve listed my skills on my profile, I’ve linked to my professional website, my resume speaks for itself. In fact, it looks to be just another thing in a series of things I have to maintain…this blog, my website, MHC’s Facebook Page, LinkedIn…Oy.

It reminds me of those assignments that teachers used to give us that we would call busywork. Remember? You knew it accomplished nothing and you certainly weren’t going to learn anything new – the teacher just wanted a time filler. Heck, I’ve done that as a teacher. LinkedIn seems like busywork that accomplishes nothing.

Another in a series of activities that can make us seem busy and productive but are really time suckers.

And what about this sort of thing: close family members informing you of life-changing news (like a pregnancy) or asking something very important of you via Facebook? I speak from experience on this one. It has happened to us. I love my nephew but the only way I found out that they were going to have another baby was because I happened to be on FB that day. My sister doesn’t go on Facebook very often, so she had no idea. What if you don’t follow Facebook every day?  What if you aren’t on Facebook at all – like my father? What ever happened to a personal phone call? Or a handwritten letter? Lord knows, I am not a great letter writer, so I would most likely use the phone, but if I was sharing BIG news with my immediate family, I sure as shootin’ wouldn’t do it via a status update on FB. Now, I’m talking about life changing news here – not everyday kind of news.

Emily Post would be rolling over in her grave.

I’m not a stickler for etiquette, by any means. But everything is getting so depersonalized in this world that I am getting increasingly more concerned about a younger generation who seemingly doesn’t get it. They are so attached to their cell phones and their texts and their hash tags that they know of no other way to communicate.

Am I the only one that finds hash tags (#) annoying and, frankly, silly? They look ridiculous to me.

Don’t get me started on those who must tweet throughout the experience they are having instead of actually having the experience. How can they possibly be in the moment? Please don’t write a status update about where you are, with all sorts of hash tags added for your tweet, and expect that to substitute for the real thing. And DO NOT TEXT DURING A LIVE PERFORMANCE. Beside the obvious fact that texting pulls you out of the moment, it is rude. When I’m standing in the back of the house and I see little blue screens lit up, you can guarantee that your fellow audience members can see them. As can the performers.There’s more than one theatergoer who has had to deal with me on that one. I will stop you.

There is so much that is valuable and wonderful about the Internet and cell phones and all that kind of thing. I wouldn’t have this blog without the Internet. I wouldn’t know all of you. I experience its value on a daily basis. But they cannot take up every waking moment of our lives or the lives of the younger generation. Lots of texts. Lots of tweets. Lots of FB Status Updates. It all equals a lot of “sound and fury, signifying nothing.” They are artificial ways of filling a day. Walking down a street with one’s head down, constantly checking the cell phone or texting – I see it all the time. It makes one seem to be important and busy and have a lot of friends. But if you can’t look up and meet someone’s eyes who’s passing you on the street, or notice a striking bit of architecture on the building you’re passing, or hear the sounds of the city or simply stop and have a conversation with someone face to face, you’re not really there. You’re in a bubble.

I’m convinced this is the reason there has been a resurgence in handcrafts of all kinds. Doing anything by hand requires time; time not tethered to a computer or a phone, time with one’s thoughts, time. You can’t rush it. You can’t really multi-task. You just have to work on your project and be. And lots and lots of younger-than-I-am people are doing it. Thank goodness. That gives me hope.

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Speaking of handwork, I’ve been quietly adding garlands to the Etsy shop. I don’t always have the opportunity to post about them, so if you’re at all interested, keep your eye on the Etsy widget in my sidebar. I’ve added 3 garlands in the past few days and two of them have already sold.

Happy Tuesday.

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